Therapy for Highly-Sensitive People

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Some HSPs would prefer the descriptor “highly perceptive” instead of highly-sensitive…and for good reason! Sensory sensitivity is only one part of the HSP experience. HSP levels of observation, mapping, prediction & perception along with creativity & depth processing is incredibly significant & one of the reasons HSPs are in the population is to predict what is good for the group.

the Highly-Sensitive & Perceptive

Perhaps one of the reasons “highly-sensitive” sticks is that the high levels of empathy HSPs experience does not get the support it needs & tools are not offered to help know what to do with high-empathy. When that is combined with sensory sensitivity, sometimes HSPs aren’t able to bring highly-perceptive skills & talents forward as easily & get stuck in the downsides.

gifts of the highly-sensitive person

body awareness

HSPs have a high level of body awareness (interoception) which creates a great ability to track emotion, physiology & movement. This is of benefit in performing, movement, meditation & mindfulness techniques, etc.

high empathy

High Empathy crosses over into the senses (we are talking about something beyond emotion). Being highly empathic can create amazing levels of connection to other people & other beings. Boundaries can support the HSP to benefit more from this trait.

It can be useful to find a focus for the empathy. HSPs tend to long for purpose & meaning.

creativity

HSPs often enjoy creative pursuits for work or leisure & also tend to love observing & participating in other's creative expressions. HSPs can almost turn ANYTHING into a creative & fun endeavor due to their deeply curious nature.

intuition & observation

Sometimes the keen observing eye of an HSP can lead to them over-thinking or determining something that isn't true. Because HSPs are so very observant & intuitive, they can sometimes know something that someone else is not yet conscious of. It can be a game-changer for them to learn how to bring their felt sense or knowledge forward to others (& who is worth their time & energy!).

super-sensory experience

Being easily over-stimulated by lighting, smells, textures, etc. can be too much, however this trait creates incredible enjoyment via the senses. HSPs often explain that sensory experiences can bring them to tears of joy.

depth of processing

To be able to "process" deeply on a mental, emotional or somatic level can be an incredible asset in one's life & also help to determine a professional life path. HSPs tend to do well in therapy with a good fit therapist, because they enjoy the process of observing themselves & having themselves reflected back accurately.

common issues for the highly-sensitive…

  • You feel different, that you don’t “fit.”

  • Your Sensory Experience (Sound, Touch, Smell, Sight &/or Taste) is tuned to a 10 & it seems like most everyone else is at a 1.

  • You’ve tried to keep up with the push & hustle culture, but end up feeling drained & over-stimulated (tired & wired).

  • You too easily absorb other people’s emotional states & feel “hung over” from their emotional expression.

  • You are distressed by animal suffering beyond what others seem to feel, even when it’s in a movie (not “real”).

  • You notice changes, novelty & repetition that others do not… whether you want to or not (a car parked in the same parking spot on Wednesdays, objects moved, the hum of electricity, the smell of campfire smoke miles away, the scratch of a shirt tag, a changed cooking oil at your favorite restaurant, etc.).

  • People see you as “sensitive” & tend to rely on you emotionally. You may even attract people who have narcissistic traits. People-pleasing may be a familiar fall-back.

  • You may live a little too much in your thoughts as thinking is an activity you enjoy greatly…trying to figure things out. Everything feels like a puzzle that needs solving.

  • You have a long history of sleep issues, digestive challenges, sensitive skin & possibly have started to develop autoimmune symptoms or diagnosis.

  • High Sensitivity often overlaps with neurodivergence such as ADHD & Autism.

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about empathy

Empaths are not always HSPs, but HSPs are always empathic…Empathy can be experienced by all humans on some level. Even those without in-born empathy can develop cognitive empathy.

So, when we are denoting someone as an Empath, what we are saying is that they have developed or were born with higher levels, creating gifts & potential challenges. Some even appear psychic because they absorb other people’s thoughts & can easily predict other’s actions as well as cultural trends.

HSPs often primarily experience what I refer to as “sensory empathy,” which can create sensory overwhelm. It is possible to create boundaries & tools to help with “too much” empathy.

how I help…

I offer a range of options such as Somatic approaches that can help to get out of your head & feeling safety in your body.

We find skills that work for you to interrupt taking in the feelings of others & getting trapped trying to “metabolize” them.

Understanding this trait can help unravel what is biological & what is traumatic impact.

I strive to maintain a sensory-friendly environment & offer therapy modalities that emphasize subtlety & slowing down to make the most of HSP gifts.

High Sensitivity (sensory processing sensitivity/SPS) is a biological trait one is born with & is not a disorder or something one “gets rid of.” HSPs have many gifts, but can also experience higher levels of trauma, anxiety, people-pleasing & difficulty holding boundaries.

20-30% OF HUMANS ARE SENSORY DIVERGENT

things that overlap or get confused with high-sensitivity

my practice is neurodiversity-affirming