I LOVE TO HELP HIGHLY-SENSITIVE PEOPLE, EMPATHS & INTROVERTS CREATE A LIFE THEY LOVE.

It’s important to get serious about your NO & embrace your YES!

about high-sensitivity…

High Sensitivity (sensory processing sensitivity/SPS) is a biological trait one is born with & is not a disorder or something one “gets rid of.” HSPs have many gifts, but can also experience higher levels of trauma, anxiety, people-pleasing & difficulty holding boundaries.

OVER 20% OF HUMANS ARE SENSORY DIVERGENT

(HSPs, ADHDers &/or AUTISTICS)

gifts of the highly-sensitive person

body awareness

HSPs have a high level of body awareness (interoception) which creates a great ability to track emotion, physiology & movement. This is of benefit in performing, movement, meditation & mindfulness techniques, etc.

high empathy

Empathy is a sense. Being highly empathic can create amazing levels of connection to other people & other beings. Boundaries can support the HSP to benefit more from this trait.

It can be useful to find a focus for the empathy. HSPs tend to long for purpose & meaning.

creativity

HSPs often enjoy creative pursuits for work or leisure, but can also move away from it due to outside opinions & pressures. HSPs also tend to love observing & participating in other's creative expressions.

intuition & observation

Sometimes the keen observing eye of an HSP can lead to them over-thinking or determining something that isn't true. Because HSPs are so very observant & intuitive, they can sometimes know something that someone else is not yet conscious of. It can be a game-changer for them to learn how to bring their felt sense or knowledge forward to others (& who is worth their time & energy!).

super-sensory experience

Being easily over-stimulated by lighting, smells, textures, etc. can be too much, however this trait creates incredible enjoyment via the senses. HSPs often explain that sensory experiences can bring them to tears of joy.

depth of processing

To be able to "process" deeply on a mental, emotional or somatic level can be an incredible asset in one's life & also help to determine a professional life path. HSPs tend to do well in therapy with a good fit therapist, because they enjoy the process of observing themselves & having themselves reflected back accurately.

common issues for the highly-sensitive…

  • You feel different, that you don’t “fit.”

  • Your Sensory Experience (Sound, Touch, Smell, Sight &/or Taste) is tuned to a 10 & it seems like most everyone else is at a 1.

  • You’ve tried to keep up with the push & hustle culture, but end up feeling drained & over-stimulated (tired & wired).

  • You too easily absorb other people’s emotional states & feel “hung over” from their emotional expression.

  • You are distressed by animal suffering beyond what others seem to feel, even when it’s in a movie (not “real”).

  • You notice changes, novelty & repetition that others do not… whether you want to or not (a car parked in the same parking spot on Wednesdays, objects moved, the hum of electricity, the smell of campfire smoke miles away, the scratch of a shirt tag, a changed cooking oil at your favorite restaurant, etc.).

  • People see you as “sensitive” & tend to rely on you emotionally. You may even attract people who have narcissistic traits. People-pleasing may be a familiar fall-back.

  • You have a long history of sleep issues, digestive challenges, sensitive skin & possibly have started to develop autoimmune symptoms or diagnosis.

things that overlap or get confused with high-sensitivity

  • Introversion/Extroversion is a personality dynamic on a continuum...meanings, people can be on the extreme ends or in the middle. It can change & move over time to some degree, depending on the person.

    Introversion is when one gathers energy from time alone & extroversion is when one gathers energy by being with others.

    There might be an assumption that HSPs are introverted, but there is a smaller sub group of HSPs who are Extroverts &/or Sensory Seekers.

    HSPs may need more alone or quiet time to calm the impact of sensory inputs, but they'll need to look deeper to understand what this means for them on the introvert/extrovert continuum.

  • Forget what you think you know about Autism...If you've met one Autistic person, you've met one Autistic person...

    Autism is a neurological, developmental-based diagnosis. It is often mis-diagnosed (undiagnosed) if big behavioral presentations are not obvious in childhood.

    Autism cannot be "medicated" away & is not a disease, but a brain difference. Many if not most Autistic people are also HSPs.

    1/2 of all who meet Autism diagnostic criteria experience ALEXITHYMIA (compared to 5% of the general population). This is difficulty identifying feelings & emotions....to be clear, this does NOT mean Autistics do not experience emotion (a terrible mis-conception about Autistic people).

    Because the Autism Spectrum has sensory components, HSPs may think they are meeting criteria for Autism. The diagnostic criteria may be confusing as it is fundamentally based on observation of behaviors & not as much worded to describe the internal experiences of an Autistic person. Someone can be HSP & Autistic, which is quite common. I prefer the information in this article over the DSM diagnosis: Article

    NOTE: the DSM diagnostic is based on what Autism presents like when (some) Autistic people are in DISTRESS. This is a big reason why some people may not see themselves in these criteria. Also, masking (a trauma response) can begin as early as infancy, which means we won't remember the ways in which we've altered ourselves on a behavioral or nervous system level.

    The DSM diagnostics for Autism are as follows:

    A. Persistent deficits in social communication and social interaction across multiple contexts, as manifested by the following, currently or by history (examples are illustrative, not exhaustive, see text):

    **ALL 3 NEED TO BE PRESENT**

    1. Deficits in social-emotional reciprocity, ranging, for example, from abnormal social approach and failure of normal back-and-forth conversation; to reduced sharing of interests, emotions, or affect; to failure to initiate or respond to social interactions.

    2. Deficits in nonverbal communicative behaviors used for social interaction, ranging, for example, from poorly integrated verbal and nonverbal communication; to abnormalities in eye contact and body language or deficits in understanding and use of gestures; to a total lack of facial expressions and nonverbal communication.

    3. Deficits in developing, maintaining, and understanding relationships, ranging, for example, from difficulties adjusting behavior to suit various social contexts; to difficulties in sharing imaginative play or in making friends; to absence of interest in peers.

    B. Restricted, repetitive patterns of behavior, interests, or activities, as manifested by at least two of the following, currently or by history (examples are illustrative, not exhaustive; see text):

    +AT LEAST 2 OF THESE 4 NEED TO BE PRESENT

    1. Stereotyped or repetitive motor movements, use of objects, or speech (e.g., simple motor stereotypies, lining up toys or flipping objects, echolalia, idiosyncratic phrases).

    2. Insistence on sameness, inflexible adherence to routines, or ritualized patterns or verbal nonverbal behavior (e.g., extreme distress at small changes, difficulties with transitions, rigid thinking patterns, greeting rituals, need to take same route or eat food every day).

    3. Highly restricted, fixated interests that are abnormal in intensity or focus (e.g, strong attachment to or preoccupation with unusual objects, excessively circumscribed or perseverative interest).

    4. Hyper- or hyporeactivity to sensory input or unusual interests in sensory aspects of the environment (e.g., apparent indifference to pain/temperature, adverse response to specific sounds or textures, excessive smelling or touching of objects, visual fascination with lights or movement).

    C. Symptoms must be present in the early developmental period (but may not become fully manifest until social demands exceed limited capacities or may be masked by learned strategies in later life).

    D. Symptoms cause clinically significant impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of current functioning.

    E. These disturbances are not better explained by intellectual disability

  • ADHD is a neurodevelopmental difference.

    ADHD is a recognized diagnostic category defined by challenges in modulating attention. When the “H” is present there will also be challenges in “hyper-activity” (example: sitting still for periods of time). Sometimes HSPs get mislabeled with ADHD because of how easily they can be over-stimulated in classrooms or group situations.

    Research indicates that ADHDers can also be HSPs, but the two have different & often opposite signatures in presentation, so it may actually make it harder to identify ADHD when a person is HS. No two people are alike...it may be complex to tease out.

    Please be aware that the DSM diagnostic for ADHD is based on outward behavior & is undergoing needed scrutiny by the neurodiverse community:

    link to diagnostic criteria

  • AuDHD is Autism & ADHD. It can sometimes be confusing to recognize because Autistic traits can be “cancelled out” by ADHD traits or vice versa.

  • Variable Attention Stimulus Trait describes all people with ‘ADHD’ traits even if not meeting the full criteria for an ADHD diagnosis.

    There is a movement to adopt the term VAST over the term ADHD because the name itself “attention deficit” is inaccurate to describe what is happening for all who experience attentional issues.

  • SPD is a distinct diagnosis that HSPs can have, but is not the same as the trait of high-sensitivity. There are several categories within SPD that may include balance/coordination issues, Sensory Modulation & Sensory Discrimination. SPD also can be an indication of the presence of ADHD, Autism & other developmental disabilities. Treatment often falls into the field of Occupational Therapists & other sensory integration specialist, especially in childhood.

  • Misophonia is not a recognized diagnosis at this time. It is defined by strong, emotional responses to specific sound triggers (example: the sound of others chewing) & can trigger panic attacks & limit an individuals socializing among other things.

    Misophonia & high-sensitivity can both be present.

    I help Misophonia clients with the Safe & Sound Protocol. The SSP can help reduce the anxiety & panic experienced from auditory sensitivity....to be clear, this does not mean the misophonia is "cured" or entirely "goes away."

  • HSPs (like others) can develop OCD, which is an anxiety-based diagnosis. Some HSP sensory overwhelm can present similarly to OCD, but does not meet diagnostic criteria. Usually what looks like OCD is the result of sensory overload & decreases or ceases when sensory overwhelm is absent.

  • Synesthesia is when your brain routes sensory information through multiple unrelated senses, causing you to experience more than one sense simultaneously.

    For example, certain musical notes/tones are experienced as specific colors to the person.

  • All HSPs have high empathy (picking up other people's emotions, body sensations & sometimes thoughts), but not all who have high empathy are HSPs. This is because high empathy does not always come with high sensory experience, a rich internal life, attention to detail, etc.

    2 kinds of Empathy to consider:

    Emotional empathy:  feeling same emotion, feeling distress in response to another’s plight, feeling compassion for another…

    Cognitive empathy:  perceiving & understanding another’s emotions…

  • HSPs (like others) can develop & meet diagnostic criteria for Anxiety, Depression, Trauma & PTSD. The main difference is that HSPs may be more vulnerable to mental health issues & ESPECIALLY if their childhood was not one of increasing confidence, boundaries & emotional intelligence. HSPs are more negatively impacted by a negative environment. For example, not being emotionally supported by caregivers can cut deeper & manifest emotional issues that non-HSPs would not relate to. Something very subtle causes a strong ripple effect, because HSPs track things on a deeper level & young children, because of their brain development always think it’s about them.

    HOWEVER, Sensory Burnout can be misinterpreted as Depression.

    That said, care must be taken when considering pharmaceutical interventions as well as the social norm of taking meds without addressing lifestyle (business, overstimulation, lack of sleep, etc.).

  • C-PTSD stands for Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. C-PTSD is not a DSM diagnosis, but has been widely adopted by the trauma community. One of the leading trauma therapists in the world petitioned to have it added to the DSM along with other professionals, but is has not been formally recognized in the diagnostic manual.

    C-PTSD can complicate identifying many diagnoses & neuro-developmental differences. Also, individuals with sensory challenges are more prone to develop trauma (even if the events don't "seem that serious compared to others").